After talking with the therapist 'B' the other day, I decided to write a bit of a tougher letter. I wasn't always that good at writing to Katie. But since November I have been doing it weekly, putting an appointment in my calendar every week to remind me.
And we can all see how much that has helped.
She is supposed to be writing home at least once a week, and that hasn't been happening either. So in an effort to get her moving, I wrote her that from here on, I would only respond to her letters. So if she doesn't write, neither do I. In addition, the letters have to be meaningful. No more drawings, song lyrics or 20 questions. Talk about the issues, get honest and dig deep. And let me know what is going on.
One thing that has amazed me is that she never talks about what happens there, the other girls or anything. I'm not asking for gossip, but just to know what is really going on. So if she writes that then I'll respond with news about what is happening here.
I said that I didn't feel that she valued our relationship, so it was time for her to show me that she did value it. I think that as much as I try to enforce that I love her unconditionally has just made her take me for granted.
It wasn't the easiest letter to write, and won't be easy for her to read. It may be a waste of my time.
The choices are all hers.
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This is our online journal of getting back to a healthy family. In September of 2005, we enrolled my daughter Katie in a specialty boarding school for troubled teens. It was one of the most difficult decisions we have ever had to make. As part of that I attempted to find information - and all I got was marketing. So we decided to start this to help other parents - a way to share what we have gone through, and are going through.
We hope to keep this updated at least weekly - but possibly daily as things happen that affect Katie and the rest of the family.
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